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February 5, 2026

Will Asking for a Prenup Ruin My Engagement?

Rozin | Golinder Law
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When some people hear the word prenup, they automatically assume that their partner does not trust them or that they are planning for a divorce, but the truth is that prenuptial agreements can protect both parties in a marriage. People have life insurance, health insurance, etc. Why does insuring a union that ends in demise 50% of the time have such a negative connotation? There are many benefits to a prenup, and they are not just for celebrities or the ultra-rich. In fact, prenups are an important tool for anyone with premarital property, a business, or children. They help to promote transparency, set realistic expectations, and ensure that both parties are protected.

The Purpose of a Prenup Isn’t About Expecting Divorce

Contrary to popular belief, the purpose of a prenup isn’t about expecting a divorce. A prenuptial agreement is a contract signed before marriage that can help set financial expectations. It is a tool that helps to protect assets and ensure equitable distribution of property. 

When a partner brings up a prenup before marriage, it can help to strengthen open communication. It requires honest disclosure of assets, debts, and expectations, ensuring both people are on the same page and bringing clarity and transparency before heading down the aisle.

The Real Benefits of a Prenuptial Agreement

Entering into a prenup agreement that clearly establishes financial expectations, including the division of assets and debts, can be a sign of trust between the parties. It does not mean that the marriage will end in divorce or that either party is envisioning the end of the relationship. It should be looked at as a protective tool for the future. 

5 Key Reasons Prenups Are a Smart Move:

1. Promotes Financial Honesty: There are several reasons to sign a prenup, but one of the most important is that it promotes financial honesty. It encourages both parties to speak openly about debts, assets, and financial goals before marriage. Hiding assets or debts from a partner can lead to distrust, weakening the bonds of marriage.

Without a prenup, each party may have their own set of expectations about what would happen in the event of a divorce or death. Few people know when and how to discuss these topics in a healthy way. Instead, when expectations aren’t met it can lead to frustration, bitterness, and resentment. Having the conversation before marriage and entering into a legal agreement can help to avoid disaster down the road.

2. Provides Peace of Mind: An important premarital agreement benefit is that it provides peace of mind for the future. Entering into a prenup removes uncertainty or doubt about what will happen down the road and prevents conflict over finances later. It can save time and money. When a prenup is signed, each party enters into the marriage with a firm understanding of what will happen in the future. The terms of the agreement can be negotiated until both people feel that it is fair and that their interests are well-protected under the law.

3. Protects Both Parties: Next, a prenup safeguards premarital property, inheritance, and family businesses. New Jersey prenuptial agreement laws are governed by the Uniform Premarital and Marital Agreements Act, which ensures fairness. The law requires that the terms of the agreement not be unconscionable and must be entered into voluntarily.

It is a common misconception that only people with significant assets should sign a prenup. Prenups are a tool that can be used for couples of any income level. They are designed to protect both parties, even if the assets in question are minimal. In some cases, it may not be about assets but rather about liabilities or a business. There are a number of beneficial reasons for both parties, even a party with limited assets, to sign a prenup.

4. Simplifies Future Legal Matters: A prenup also helps to simplify future legal matters in the event of a death or divorce. It can help to streamline the division of assets and liabilities, reducing stress for everyone involved. Getting ahead of a situation is usually advisable and can save time and money. One advantage to signing a prenup is that some matters that may come up in the future have already been decided. For instance, the prenup may establish how debts will be divided, a common point of contention in a divorce. 

5. Reflects Mutual Respect: Finally, agreeing to a prenup can reflect mutual respect. It is a sign that both parties value fairness and transparency, not mistrust. It shows a willingness to communicate openly about the future. It can also provide a foundation for honesty about money, one of the most common sources of disagreement in a marriage. Furthermore, prenups can actually remove doubt about why a person is entering into a marriage. 

How to Bring Up a Prenup to Your Partner

While bringing up the idea of signing a prenup to your partner can initially feel uncomfortable, it is important to remember the why. Having your future spouse agree to a premarital agreement is not about divorce. It is about love and trust. It can be difficult in the beginning to know how to talk about a prenup, but there are strategies to ensure a more fruitful conversation. 

First, make sure that you know your why. Have the reasons you are asking for the premarital agreement. It may be that you want financial transparency in marriage, or that you want to protect yourself and your spouse in the event that something happens in the future. Be prepared to answer those questions. 

Next, choose a moment when things are calm. If you are in the height of wedding planning or another stressful situation, it is probably not the time to discuss important matters. Finally, if you are unsure of where to start, consider speaking with an experienced family law attorney who can provide advice about how to initiate the conversation.

Common Myths About Prenuptial Agreements

Over time, prenuptial agreements have gotten a bad reputation, but in reality, they are a critical tool for anyone entering into a marriage. 

The most common myth is that a prenuptial agreement is only important if a couple plans on getting divorced. The truth is that prenups protect parties and help to establish trust, not prepare for divorce. They can also clarify what may happen in the event of the death of one of the partners. 

Another common myth about prenuptial agreements is that only the rich need them. Anyone with assets, a business, or children should consider a prenup. They can also be helpful if one party carries a significant amount of debt or has an inheritance to be protected. In practice, a prenup agreement is a financial planning tool that is signed before marriage, not a precursor to divorce.

How Rozin | Golinder Law Can Help

The family law attorneys at Rozin | Golinder Law understands that conversations surrounding a prenup can be challenging. People often have misconceptions about what a prenuptial agreement is and whether a prenup is even fair. Our experienced attorneys and staff are here to help. We will provide the guidance and resources you need to make an informed decision. 

Our firm is well-versed in protecting assets before marriage and setting the stage for a sound financial future. If you are getting married, contact our office at (732) 377-3367 to schedule a consultation about our prenup services.

Feel free to reach out and speak with our experienced team of professionals who are here to provide you with expert guidance.
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